what i've learned along the way
. . . a holiday to remember
Published on December 25, 2007 By lobsterhunter In Misc
"This time last year, would you have ever imagined you’d be waking up with a man in your bed?” Chris inquired as we greeted the day on Christmas morning. The silky Egyptian cotton sheets kept our bodies warm as we snuggled under the covers, and a feeling of gratitude welled up deep inside my heart.

After twenty seven years of “going home” for Christmas, I now have a family of my own to share the holiday season with. Chris exceeds my wildest expectations, and as we exchanged gifts at the foot of the Christmas tree this morning, I was reminded of how blessed I am to have found a man who shares my soul.

It’s funny how quickly life can change. Last December, I was on a cruise ship headed to Mexico trying to convince myself that life as a singleton was sufferable. I never anticipated the blessings that have unfolded, and today I stand in awe of God’s goodness.

Following tradition, Chris and I traveled to the Texas Panhandle over the weekend, and he got his first taste of the Frank’s Family Funk. As usual, Nora kept things sane, and my siblings and I managed to make it through another family gathering without killing each other. Chris blends in beautifully with the Frank’s Clan, and I am thankful he chooses to look beyond their obvious dysfunction and see the loyalty and love that exist within the walls of our chilly, dilapidated home in Lefors.

Spending a quiet, peaceful Christmas Day with the love of my life is a dream come true. We will pick up Hunter and Chandler tomorrow afternoon, and I can’t wait to see the look on their faces when they open up the gifts their dad and I bought for them. Words cannot express how lucky I feel to be a part of a healthy family system. As I glance back over Christmas’ past, I can clearly see how God was preparing me for the treasures I hold today. Life is full of unexpected twist and turns, and I can trust that as the years continue to pass, I will always be loved deeply by the man who chose to marry me.

How have the holidays evolved in your life?

on Dec 25, 2007

Holidays for my family are a bit on the hectic side.  Too many youngsters of too many former youngsters.  My parents had 4 children, those children had children, etc.  On top of that, my grandmother's children (my aunts) and all of their children that make an appearance or send a representative to visit with my grandmother keeps things hectic there.

I see relatives that have aged quite a bit since my youth, and it reminds me of how much I have aged too.  Things were actually somewhat quieter this year as half of the family was away for most of the day while visiting at my parents.  Without those people there the house was less hectic and almost tolerable.  Still makes for a tiring day as there's just too much running around going from her parents home on Christmas eve to my parents home on Christmas day.  By the time I get home (a short while ago now) I'm just beat.

Work beckons tomorrow, though it should be fairly quiet as many people take the time between the holidays off.  At least I hope it remains quiet.  I'd like the time to catch my breath

on Dec 25, 2007
For me, the sort of stayed the same up until a few years back.

We'd always go to Fargo where my moms fam lived, for Turkey day. Then we would spend Christmas back in northern MN where my dad also lived (divorced fam). We'd spend Christmas eve at my moms, and then Christmas day at my Uncles where he would make some sort of Italian dish. Thats the way it has been for a long time.

The fam still has Christmas day at my Uncles and this year Im not going to be there due to my work. I don't think I have missed going home for the holidays in quite some time.

This year, Marcie and I are broke (lol as usual), so we can't afford to get gifts for family members. We didn't even put up a Christmas tree or any decorations. It means alot to us, the holidays, we just don't get into it as much anymore because we are so far from family.