what i've learned along the way
So now I'm a liar
Published on September 7, 2006 By lobsterhunter In Misc
I was recently presented with the following question:

"Do you have people around you who could never do anything to make you love them less?"

I've been pondering this for some time now, and after an unpleasant phone call this evening, a very deep-seeded truth sunk into the recesses of my stubborn heart.

You see, I have this insanely, infuriating little sister who knows how to push all of my buttons. In an attempt to play her ridiculous game, I made a wrong move, and ended up looking like an ass. I lied trying to cover up my blunder, only causing more damage. My mistake hurt her, and I am truly sorry.

Now back to the question.

This little sister of mine is manipulative and inconsistent. Do I love her less? No. She is insensitive and highly irresponsible. Do I love her less? No. She constantly violates my boundaries. Do I love her less? No.

This same little sister can make me laugh so much it hurts. Does this make me love her more? No. She challenges my black and white thinking, helping me grow up in my faith. Does this make me love her more? No. She shares her life with me, the good and the bad. Does this make me love her more? No.

I love her because she is MINE. Period.

I hope someday she will love me just because I'm her Asain sister . . .

Comments
on Sep 08, 2006
"Do you have people around you who could never do anything to make you love them less?"


I love her because she is MINE. Period.


I understand this.

I think you're grasping onto something very important and very true here.

Don't want to intrude on your moment, though, Tenille. I know she will have something tacky to say to me in response to my presence here on this blog, so I won't elaborate.

Take care.

on Sep 08, 2006
I know she will have something tacky to say to me in response to my presence here on this blog, so I won't elaborate.


When does she not have something tacky to say? My days of apoligizing for her are a thing of the past. I LOVE her all the time, but I don't always like her. I'm sure you understand. Thanks for taking the time to read my stuff.

P.S. I haven't found your myspace yet! What's up with that?
on Sep 08, 2006
LOL, No worries, Tenille.

Anyways, I liked this article.

P.S. I haven't found your myspace yet! What's up with that?


I'm considering it.
on Sep 08, 2006
Tenille, I think alot of it has to do with what kind of heart a person has. You may never love anyone less for something that they have done to wrong you, but not all people are as kind and forgiving. I know that's not really the point you were trying to make, but it got me thinking nonetheless. Take Tiff and I for example. When she and I had our little falling out that she was telling you about, I cried for over an hour- not because I was hurt, but because I was afraid I had thrown 15 years of friendship out the window. So, here is my question in return. Do you have people around you who would love YOU less if you were to wrong them? I'm sorry to say I think I do. Does that make me love them less? NO.
on Sep 09, 2006
Do you have people around you who would love YOU less if you were to wrong them?


The fear I feel concerning this question has kept me locked in my own prison for a very long time. I want to believe there is nothing I could ever do to make folks love me less, but I don't. I've only recently begun to consider God feels this way about me. Maybe someday . . .

Thanks for reading Alta. Tiff is lucky to have such a compassionate, forgiving person in her life.
on Sep 09, 2006
you can love someone and still not like them very much.
on Sep 09, 2006
you can love someone and still not like them very much


Help me distinguish the difference. Expand on this . . .
on Sep 09, 2006
Reply #7
you can love someone and still not like them very much


Help me distinguish the difference. Expand on this . . .


Well, think of this example. You have a child whom you naturally love. This child misbehaves and acts out. You dislike this behavior, but you still love the child.

on Aug 01, 2007
damn