And They Say the First Year of Marriage is the Hardest . . .

What do they know?

Published on May 25, 2008 By lobsterhunter In Personal Relationships

My husband and I are celebrating our very first wedding anniversary today. This time last year we were boarding a plane headed for the great state of California. Chris and I said our vows on Santa Monica beach, and the only witness was the local minister we had found on the Internet. The wedding was picture perfect, and I have no regrets. The intimate moments we shared created memories that will last a lifetime.

The last twelve months have been nothing less than blissful. With each passing week, my skeptical nature would brace itself for the proverbial shoe to drop. I kept waiting for the “newness” to wear off, but instead I found a deeper connection developing. Chris exceeded my grandest expectations, and I found myself falling more and more in love with him every moment we spent together.

My life looks drastically different than it did a year ago. I am still an independent woman, but I have someone to hold my hand at the movies now. I look forward to sharing my evenings with my husband, and I’ve slowly begun to embrace my role as a “bonus mom” to Hunter and Chandler. Our ordinary days seem extraordinary, and I feel more secure than I ever have in my whole life.

Sure, the road we’ve traveled has had a few minor bumps.

His difficult ex-wife . . .

My dysfunctional family . . .

New jobs . . .

These types of struggles always seemed larger than life when I was walking this journey alone. But, with Chris by my side, they are simpler and less complicated. I finally feel “normal”, and I am content knowing that if trials come our way, we will weather the storm together.

I enjoyed my season of singleness, but I absolutely LOVE being married. I have found a rare treasure, and I will protect and cherish him for the rest of my life. I am convinced that Chris and I will grow old together. There a millions of precious memories waiting to be born and today I choose to celebrate!

Comments

adnauseam

on May 25, 2008

Great news and be happy. My wife and I have been married for 35 great years but I do remember that the first year was difficult. We had never lived together before we got married and we seemed like strangers to one another in our first year. It was like having a new room mate who you did not really know (her toothpaste was different, her cooking was awful, her moods had not emerged in courtship, my sloppy ways were new to her, my own moods were not evident and so on.)

You work through these difficulties when you realise, that in a new marriage there is give and take and you adjust to one another. Well, 35 years later, we have two beautiful adult kids as evidence that love wins in the end.

To take over stepchildren is a huge challenge and you seem to be winning already. Best wishes to you all.

Tova7

on May 25, 2008

This time alone really helps solidify your marriage. I honestly don't know how couples make it when they get married and have a new born right off the bat. Newborns require so much attention. That woulda killed my marriage. We needed every second of the seven years before our first...hahahaha.

Happy Anniversary.

Adventure-Dude

on May 29, 2008

Yay! LobsterHunter!

My wife and I are at 8 months of marriage. I'm not sure where they say the first year is the hardest. I hope it's true though, because if this is the hardest I LOOK forward to the next!

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