what i've learned along the way
. . . when it's just too much
Published on December 2, 2004 By lobsterhunter In Misc
"I can't handle this."

"It's just to much to bear."

"This weight is killing me."

"I'm not going to make it"

Growing up in a semi-Christian home, I remember my grandma talking about how God never gives us more than we can handle. I would sit in Sunday school each week and listen to my Bible teacher talk about how Jesus wanted to help us carry our burdens. As a child, I didn't understand how brutal life could be, so these verses didn't really influence my thinking much. I'm grown up now, and they still puzzle me.

Who gets to decide how much I can handle? Is there a pain quota that each of us much reach before we surrender? Will life always be a cycle of one struggle after another?

When I try to make sense of all the suffering in the world, I am instantly overwhelmed. My faith seems lacking, and I question whether or not I know what it means to trust an invisible God. I know all the right answers, and when I look at life through logical lenses I can see some common patterns. But, it doesn't change the fact that sometimes things just plain suck.

Pain peirces the soul. Fear is paralyzing. Loneliness causes our hearts to ache.

I recently heard someone say,

"God permits what He could prevent, because at the end of the day He wants me to look more like Him, and less like me. He is more interested in my character than my comfort."

He aslo defined stress as,

"Registering our resistance to the circumstances God currently has us in."

This makes sense, but it doesn't make acceptance arrive any sooner. Maybe someday I will understand this mystery. Or maybe not? Either way, life will continue. And I will keep searching for answers."

Comments
on Dec 02, 2004
I can't grok the Christain thing but a definition of stress is when you put too much emphasis on something. ie you stressed one thing over another. If you accept that the pressure that the stress is putting on you (god, my engineering background is feeling uneasy with that comment) is because you're putting too much emphasis on it then maybe it's time to focus on something else. Trust me, doing someting else won't make your problem go away, but if it lets you take a step back and see the big picture then it has to be good, if the thing you focus on, the thing you emphasise, is a positive then maybe it really will solve your problem.
on Dec 02, 2004
Frightlever

I am not clear on the meaning of grok. Interesting perspective. I've never considered the engineering viewpoint. Thanks for commenting.
on Dec 03, 2004
Love you Tenille.
on Dec 03, 2004
Love you too Brandie.
on Dec 04, 2004

"""""when I look at life through logical lenses I can see some common patterns. But, it doesn't change the fact that sometimes things just plain suck."""""

Logic never did convince the heart.

Trinitie

on Dec 04, 2004
Perhaps you are right.

Should we want it to?
on Dec 04, 2004

ooh ooh... what about this one? 


"If we're ever gonna see a rainbow, we gotta stand a little rain..." - The Nitty Gritty Dirt Band


So isn't all that hardship supposed to make the good stuff all the better when it arrives?  That's how we learn to appreciate the good things when they happen right?   

on Dec 04, 2004
Imaginit,

Yep. The only problem is you can't see the rainbow, until the rain stops falling.
on Dec 05, 2004
I like how you comment after EVERY SINGLE one...hehehe Trinitie
on Dec 07, 2004
Well written piece. I greatly appreciate your viewpoint.
on Dec 08, 2004
Thanks. I've heard you live in my hometown. Is this true?
on Dec 09, 2004

lobster,

Yup, and a fine hometown it is

on Jan 11, 2005
when I look at life through logical lenses I can see some common patterns. But, it doesn't change the fact that sometimes things just plain suck.Logic never did convince the heart.
How true, where's the logic in tsunamis,Iraq and Israel-Palestine?
on Jan 13, 2005
i am not quite sure what you mean by stress because i have none. but in life i guess you have a lot of stress whether it be with work or personal stress. Just pray that all stress will soon be alleviated and that your life may soon less chaotic.