what i've learned along the way
. . . cause I'm getting on my own flippin' nerves!
Published on June 8, 2005 By lobsterhunter In Misc
Every so often the winds of insecurity sweep into my thoughts leaving a destructive path of negative self talk. I start second guessing all of my actions, and my character defects seem glaring and unbearable. I begin to tell myself things like, "Why do you say such stupid stuff?", and "Nobody really likes hanging out with you. You're too high maintenence." Fighting these demons requires constant vigalence, and the fear of rejection can be paralyzing.

I sometimes wonder if I annoy those who choose to be in my presence. My over exagerrated stories and inability to listen attentively can be exasperating. Occassionaly, people respond to me in a tone which indicates irritation. Now, I am sure there are plenty of reasons for folks to get aggravated with me, but accepting their disgust can be extremely difficult. I desire the approval of others, and when I sense their frustration I want to apologize for existing.

I want to be liked. I want others to enjoy my company. I want to be accepted.

But I don't "feel" very acceptable. I attempt to fight off the lies using God's Word as a weapon. Sometimes this works, and other times I loose the battle. Insecurity is a vicious tool of Satan, and unfortunately I allow it to wreak havoc on my emotions. If I could ever truly grasp my identity as a child of God, perhaps this war with self-doubt might cease.

So I leave you with the lyrics to two of my favorite songs. One is by Superchick, a Christian version of the Spice Girls and the other is by Pink, my alter ego.

One and Lonely

It's not like they meant to hurt me
Watchin TV, checkin Britney, televised, my guys
Checkin out her thighs and I roll my eyes and sigh
It's not like I even need to be
competing with unreality TV, fantasy
Not for a smart girl like me
Some days it's hard to be a one girl revolution

CHORUS:
Sometimes I have good days and it's good to be me
Sometimes I get the best of insecurity
And it's quite alright to be the one and only
But today I feel like the one and lonely

It's not that I don't know beauty is only skin deep
Just the skin I'm in, not the girl within
But one imperfection takes away my grin
Not that I think I'm ugly but
Acne throws me for a backslide
I won't go outside
Makeup can't hide how I feel inside
Some days it's hard to be a one girl revolution

CHORUS

(Oh, the one and lonely)
We all have bad hair days
Those nothing good about me days
Just keep moving on cuz they'll be gone
And we'll still be here going on
We have our yesterdays
No lunch cuz the jeans don't fit days
Just keep moving on cuz they'll be gone
And we'll still be here going on

Sometimes I have bad days and it's hard to be me
Sometimes I get brought down by insecurity
And I have my days where I'm the one and lonely
But today I choose to be the one and only
Yea, I'm the one and only

Don't Let Me Get Me

CHORUS
I'm a hazard to myself
Don't let me get me
I'm my own worst enemy
It's bad when you annoy yourself
So irritating
Don't want to be my friend no more
I wanna be somebody else
I wanna be somebody else

Comments
on Jun 09, 2005
To answer your question, no, you don't annoy me. We ALL do stupid stuff, we ALL have character defects, sometimes we are ALL high maintenence. But the operative word in your post is "choose." I choose to be in your presence. I choose to be your friend. You can't please everyone, so stop trying. It's a shame you don't feel acceptable. I read the other day that discouragement is Satan's most favorite tool. It's so well worn because it works on everyone, regardless of their beliefs. Hang in there T, and know you are loved! I can't repeat that enough.
on Jun 09, 2005

we ALL have character defects, sometimes we are ALL high maintenence.

Ummm...I don't reckon I'm ever high maintenence......a few people probably wish I'd step up my "maintenence" a lil.  

I'm a little curious as to what incident lead to this blog.

Ease my curiouisty?

You get on my nerves......often......just so you know.

Trinitie

on Jun 09, 2005
You get on my nerves......often......just so you know


The feelings are mutual.

Nothing in particular brought on this blog. Just some goofy feelings I needed to release. Love you Trin.
on Jun 09, 2005
But the operative word in your post is "choose."


Bruce,

I'm a firm believer in the power of choice. It's so easy to spiral into a pit of helplessness, especially when Satan wants nothing more than to make me ineffective. It really is a shame that I still feel unacceptable, but I have to believe the time lapses between these bouts of unworthiness will grow further and further apart as I keep walking this spiritual path. Thank you for the reminder that I am loved.
on Jun 22, 2005
Wow, Trin, simmer. lol

Tenille, that's a low-blow to superchic[k]. haha, comparing them to the spice girls. It's okay, though, not too far off a comparasion.

I liked this article. We all feel this way sometimes, but I think you're pretty cool. Although I don't have to deal w/you in person. lol.. jk jk

Good lyrics

~Sarah
on Jun 26, 2005

lol,  no, they're not good lyrics, they're lame....

Like you and Tenille.  !!!!

Trinitie

p.s.  simmer my ass