Being Single Sucks

. . . sometimes

Published on September 19, 2005 By lobsterhunter In Misc

Preface: I’m not depressed. Life isn’t awful. I just needed to release these thoughts. No need to worry!

What does it mean to be content? This question plagues me, because as I walk through this journey we call life, contentment seems to be just outside my reach. I keep hoping someone or something is going to suddenly make life wonderful, but deep in my soul I know this way of thinking will only leave me disappointed and unsatisfied.

This is not how I imagined my life would look.

I never wanted to buy a new home on my own.

I didn’t want to mow the yard by myself or independently assemble a grill.

I want someone to take Sunday afternoon naps with, and someone to hold my hand at the movies.

I want a knight in shining armor to walk beside me.

I want to be married and have a family.

I suppose I must acknowledge the God shaped void that seems to eat away at my soul. If He is the only thing that satisfies, then why am I still so thirsty? Why do I long for companionship? Why can’t I just be happy where I am? Why does 26 feel like 40?

This Eyeore mentality is never productive. My life is really not all that bad. I don’t have to do all the things I mentioned on my own. I have wonderful friends who walk beside me and surrogate parents who help me with domestic chores. (Thanks Bruce for helping me with the propane!) God has blessed my life, but it never seems to be enough. I always want more. I always long for that which I do not have.

Of course, the only alternative is to accept life on life’s terms. Acceptance causes hope to fade. When I continue holding out for something more, I find myself disillusioned and disappointed. Things don’t go my way, and I don’t get what I want. I am such a BRAT!

Deep down, I know I am not alone. It's just that sometimes I feel alone. Occasionally, being single sucks.

Comments (Page 2)

lobsterhunter

on Sep 20, 2005

I agree with Trin (sort of)

You've got to be kidding me . . .

I truly appreciate your insight Bruce. Trin and I both love you because we appreciate who you were and who you are today. Perhaps we will both morph a little as time passes.

lobsterhunter

on Sep 20, 2005

Single for 2.5 years and counting

I've definitely got you beat bro., but thanks for sharing your thoughts.

new-age nomad

on Sep 23, 2005

"being single sucks"

then be double, or even triple

Trinitie

lobsterhunter

on Sep 24, 2005

then be double, or even triple

You are so darn clever! Why didn't I think of that?

Texas Wahine

on Sep 24, 2005

then be double, or even triple

Sounds kinky.

vijo

on Oct 12, 2005

We have right only on the work but no right on the fruit thereof. Without the crave for getting the fruit we have to work hard irrespective of whether fruit goes to someone else's share. Be equal-minded in getting or losing. God is teaching us to be unselfish, i.e. selflessness. Greed is that void you mention which is in all of us which we have to discard with efforts.

lobsterhunter

on Oct 12, 2005

We have right only on the work but no right on the fruit thereof

Huh? You lost me.

Greed is that void you mention which is in all of us which we have to discard with efforts

Effort you say? Is that all it takes?

Steven

on Oct 27, 2006

Wow, if Bruce didn't contradict himself over and over again in his post I am not sure what he did. You say that a person should not strive for contentment but yet Tenille should to "Be content with where she currently is". I hate to tell you but you should never learn to be content with where you currently are. Life is about growing and adapting and becoming more and more like Christ every day. Tenille I hope that you never find contentment, I hope that every single day you wake up longing for something more in life. That every single day you ask God for more and more and more of what he might have planned for you. The day that you wake up and are content with anything is the day that you will stop growing and you will become stagnant within your faith and your walk.

Then to go a step further within Bruce's post to where he says "finding someone to fill your void will not make your life wonderful" I have to say that is a crock as well. There is something beautiful and amazing and yes "wonderful" about finding that person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Finding that someone that is going to complete you and enter into a union before God and everyone to become one with you is an amazing thing and will make your life "wonderful". The desire would not be in your heart to have that companionship if God did not plan on you having it therefore I have a hard time believing that your life is just as good without it as it will be with it. Meeting that person who will challenge you and push you every single day to become more like Christ is (to me) one of the greatest parts about this life, getting to grow closer and closer to someone as you both continue to grow closer to Christ.

Keep your chin up Tenille you have always been one of the most amazing and beautiful people that I know. When the time is right God will let you know who you are to be with. Until then just keep allowing him to prepare you for that lucky guy that will get to spend the rest of his life with you!

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